Dating in today’s world can be a frustrating experience. You have to shift through profiles, swipe left and right, chat with strangers, and go on dates with people you don’t know. Sometimes you find someone who seems perfect for you–until they turn out to be a different kind of man. You may have just noticed …
I was talking with one of my friends this morning at breakfast, and the conversation turned to kids. He shared a story about listening to his daughter, proud that he didn’t jump right in with a fix. I laughed and said, “Yeah, I’m bad at just listening too, I always want to jump right in …
The other day, a friend of mine who was a new stepparent asked me, “What is the best advice you have for a new stepparent?” I’m not a psychologist, but I am a father of five with my 9th anniversary coming up with a blended family, so I have learned a few things over the …
Personal growth can happen in many equally successful ways. Life coaching is about the coach presenting options for helping a person to reach their goals. Therapy is for prescribing changes in the client’s beliefs and behaviors so that mental health and emotional healing can happen. That allows the person to pursue their goals instead of …
Do you know what the biggest loss is in anyone’s life???? I think it is an emotional loss. Am I wrong? We can’t compare the pain of heart-break to any pain in this world. To overcome the pain of a broken heart takes a lot of effort. When we fall or are injured, we feel physical pain …
Sometimes the solution has nothing to do with the problem. Why? Because the problem is not really the problem. And if the problem is not really the problem, then the solution cannot really be the solution. Sounds pretty zen and all, but what does all this even mean? The Problem Is Not Really the Problem …
You have no doubt heard this phrase many times throughout your life: “Pick your battles.” It’s one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard, as it can be applied to almost any aspect of life. On an almost daily basis, I find myself mumbling under my breath, “Pick your battles, Chris. Pick your …
I went for three whole years without a single friend. Yes, you heard that right. Three years. No exaggeration or joke about it. Throughout middle school and high school, I had a decent amount of friends and TONS of acquaintances. I assume people would have described me as outgoing and the “life of the party.” …
What do you consider to be a failure? And do you know how to deal with failures? For me, failure is directly related to some mental disturbance. I think the prime goal of our life as humans is to be happy and help others. If we are unable to do so, then it is a …
It took me a long time to find “my people” and embrace who I am. Even though tens of thousands of people follow me for some reason, I’m an introvert and admittedly a bit of a nerd. I don’t like going into social situations where we talk about the weather for an hour or go …
Dating Again after the End of a Relationship Have you gone through a breakup before? If you have, you know how heart-wrenching it is parting ways with someone you thought would be “the one.” The fact is, no one enters a relationship to end it. Well, except for a few outliers here and there. Most …
I am a hoops nut. I have followed the game from the high school level to the NBA for 40 years. About 10 years ago, I diligently followed St. Patrick high school in my native New Jersey. I knew the head coach, principle and AD. Turns out, this became one of the most influential high …
As an executive and business owner, I have to chuckle sometimes when I see books like “The 4-Hour Workweek.” Work-life balance is not a 4-hour workweek. Don’t get me wrong, I actually like that book, it has some solid advice. But I feel like the expectation that material like that sets up is completely unrealistic …
In the book, “Built to Last,” a study of highly successful companies, authors identified rejecting the “Tyranny of the OR” and embracing the “Genius of the AND” as one of the habits of highly successful leaders. They found that one of the real powers behind these companies was that their leaders didn’t settle for the …
In business, and most areas of life, it’s not what you know, it’s who you know, which is why there’s such an importance in the modern world to network. From networking with people within your own business, making new connections online, and creating relationships with people in your local area, networking is critical. That being …
I created a forum on Reddit to highlight the happy marriage stories that often get buried by the media, r/HappyMarriages. I love seeing posts from people who are still deeply in love after being married 20, 30, or more years. If you want to brag on your spouse or read some uplifting stories, you should join …
