20 Choices That Will Determine Your Destiny

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Everyone is born with the potential for greatness. What happens next is up to you. You get to choose which path you take, how high to set the bar for yourself, and how hard you’re willing to work to clear it. You get to decide how to spend your time, who to spend it with, and what you’re willing to forgo when time runs short. Every choice that you make and every action that you take has consequences, but who better to decide what’s best for you –– than you. You, and you alone, determine your destiny. 

Choices have trade-offs. By definition, a choice is an either-or decision. As such, every time you choose one direction, you’re also choosing not to take an alternate path. In other words, saying “no” to one idea enables you to say “yes” to another. The key is to choose wisely. Your destiny depends on it.

Do you:

  • Make things happen or wait to be told what to do?
  • Invest in your personal growth or count on others to train you?
  • Ask for help as a last resort or see it as your first option? 
  • Accept responsibility when things go wrong or look for others to blame?
  • Power through tough times or quit when things become difficult? 
  • Form your own opinions or gauge what others think first?
  • Accept the consequences of your actions or expect others to bail you out? 
  • Make your own decisions or lean on others? 
  • Trust your judgment or believe that others know better?
  • Embrace a healthy lifestyle or hope that a magic pill will be a quick fix?
  • Accept responsibility for misfortune or play the helpless victim? 
  • Learn from the school of hard knocks or live a sheltered life?
  • View feedback as a learning opportunity or sulk and get defensive?
  • Remain true to your values or give in to peer pressure?
  • Surround yourself with positive people or let toxic influences drag you down?
  • Make yourself proud or seek acceptance from others?
  • Identify solutions to make things better or constantly complain about how bad things are?
  • Earn your rewards or feel entitled to them?
  • Step out of your comfort zone or allow naysayers to hold you back? 
  • Define acceptable standards of behavior for yourself or allow others to set them for you?

Make good choices. A wise person once said, “When writing the story of your life, don’t let anyone else hold the pen.” It’s your choice. Your destiny. Own it!

This post is excerpted from Leadership by Example: Be a role model who inspires greatness in others by Frank Sonnenberg © 2023 Frank Sonnenberg. All rights reserved.

20 Choices That Will Determine Your Destiny

About the Author 

Frank Sonnenberg

Frank Sonnenberg is an award-winning author and a well-known advocate for moral character, personal values, and personal responsibility. He has written 10 books and has been named one of “America’s Top 100 Thought Leaders.” Additionally, his blog — FrankSonnenbergOnline — has attracted millions of readers and was recently named one of the “Top Self-Improvement and Personal Development Blogs” in the world and one of the “Best Inspirational Blogs On the Planet.” Frank’s newest book, Leadership by Example: Be a role model who inspires greatness in others, was released June 13, 2023.

  • Love the thought-provoking questions here. Frank challenges us all to make an impact in our own lives — which will undoubtedly impact others. This is how the world becomes a better place.

    • Thanks, Lorelei. In short, “A wise person once said, ‘When writing the story of your life, don’t let anyone else hold the pen.’ It’s your choice. Your destiny. Own it!”

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