In the book, “Built to Last,” a study of highly successful companies, authors identified rejecting the “Tyranny of the OR” and embracing the “Genius of the AND” as one of the habits of highly successful leaders.
They found that one of the real powers behind these companies was that their leaders didn't settle for the lesser of two good options. They realized that these were false dichotomies, meaning that they were both possible and they didn't have to choose between them.
These great leaders embraced the AND instead of settling for the OR.
Our world is filled with false dichotomies which we have somehow let rule our lives.
Be there for your kids OR be successful at work.
Spend money on fun stuff OR be wealthy.
Eat food you love OR be healthy.
Do something you love OR make a lot of money.
Get married to have a stable relationship OR have great sex.
What if the real answer is to embrace the AND?
Be there for your kids AND be successful at work.
Spend money on fun stuff AND be wealthy.
Eat food you love AND be healthy.
Do something you love AND make a lot of money.
Get married to have a stable relationship AND have great sex.
Don't settle for the OR.
Embrace the AND.