Why Bad Days Are Your Most Pivotal Days

by Ryan Biddulph

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10 years ago I would have called today a bad day. A few separate events triggered mild fears I still cling to. Minus the initial, mini fear surge we all know too well, the feelings faded and I felt good.

4 distinct events triggered the light fears. I used to make a fear mountain out of a tiny molehill because fears I buried and resisted grew into something wicked. Today would have been a horrible day. But I simply skipped from event to event relatively seamlessly, after the initial fear mini surge.


I finally discovered all those nightmarish, bad days of the past served as my best days because I realized said days triggered and forced me to face, feel and release my deepest fears.

Fear Release

Facing and feeling your deepest fears feels horrible but releasing your deepest fears marks some of the best days of your life. The moment I found out about my mother being diagnosed with Alzheimer's was perhaps the worst day of my life at the time. But the horrors in me triggered, that I was forced to feel, helped me see her experience from a calm, relaxed, open, almost completely accepting vibe. The bad burden becomes an enlightened blessing if you explore the emotions triggered.

As I sat in that crappy Laos hostel in 2012, depressed out of my mind to begin with, I began to feel genuine fear, pain and a sense of loss I had never explored. After quite an extended period of time I eventually released some of my deepest fears. Where does that leave me now? Compared to most humans, I am largely fearless. Plus I freely nudge into many fears that I still have, to help more folks and to experience greater blogging success.

Every allegedly horrible day serves as your most pivotal day if you face, feel and release fears that color the day as being horrible. Everything in life is a neutral event; your mind colors the event with your dominant emotions, weaving a tale, telling a story, judging the neutral situation. Feeling your deep fears on those most nightmarish of days turns you in to an incredibly powerful, peaceful, loving, compassionate person.

My ego wishes my mom were healthy but my heart knows that I had to go through this experience and grow through this experience to become the person I am today. Every human is called to something higher, some greater responsibility to benefit humanity, but purging your fears slowly but steadily over those nightmarish days is the linchpin to find this calling and to stabilize your vibe.

Do You Need Tragedy and Trauma to Be Peaceful and Prospering?

No you don't. But in most cases, yes you do. Why? People love being comfortable but afraid, unhappy and living in a state of mental chaos. Tragedy, trauma and those horrible days serve you with the incredible opportunity to sprint out of your comfort zone, to genuinely face your deepest fears, to be happy and to be serene. Until something genuinely horrible happens, most of us refuse to face our deepest fears and to clear these fears. After experiencing tragedy, people either give up and live in misery until they die, fighting their fears, or they grow into something genuinely special by feeling their fears.

Bad days trigger your deepest fears and greatest pains so you can proceed more fear-free, with less pain, from a peaceful, abundant, generous, compassionate vibe.

Calm, generous people who fear-dive routinely tend to become the most successful people in worldly terms. This crowd does not burden itself with the blanket fear and pain plaguing most of humanity.

Be grateful for bad days. Bad days form the pivots upon which you can move toward your dream life.

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About the Author 

Ryan Biddulph

Ryan Biddulph helps you learn how to blog at Blogging From Paradise.

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