How Did You Get Here?

by Ryan Biddulph

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You and I have asked that question of ourselves more than once, right?

Here's the answer: you made conscious and unconscious choices based on your predominant energy, your predominant vibe, your predominant emotion.

Emotions change. But human beings emit a predominant vibe most of the time.

Fortunately, humans can change their predominant vibe in any moment. Unfortunately, facing, feeling and releasing fears fueling a fear-based, predominant vibe feels a little uncomfortable or highly unpleasant.

Do it.

Living a life of freedom, fun and peace – predominantly – is worth a few moments of discomfort.

How You Got Here Now

The choices you made based on how you felt at the time made you arrive here, now. No one put you here, save you. People, circumstances and situations appear to have put you here but each has as much power over you as a guppy has over a blue whale.

Genuinely, you create your universe. I know this sounds insane. Perhaps this sounds deluded. Alas, it is true.

Make this turning point:

“I am here right now because of my feelings which influenced me to think in act in a specific way.”

Your feelings made it all happen.

Most people suffer through some light or heavy trauma as kids, or as grown-ups, trigger some deep fear-pain, then do the absolute worst thing you can do: bury the fear-pain, distract yourself from feeling it and avoid it.

Guess what happens? Most people think and act from a predominant vibe of deeply buried, almost completely unconscious, fear. Acting from fear guarantees where you are right now feels depressing, frustrating, hopeless, or at best, slightly melancholic.

Perfect Place Perfect Time

No worries; everything in life unfolds in the perfect place, at the perfect time. You NEED TO be right here, right now, to own your life, your feelings, your thoughts and your actions.

After taking ownership of your life, slowly observe the choices you made. How many did you make from fear? How many did you make from love and fun? Wait for honest answers to pop up in your mind.

Begin to slowly, patiently and lovingly face, feel and release your fears fueling fear-based choices. Be gentle with yourself. Feeling the fear of loss – loss of loved ones, loss of money, loss of reputation, loss of companionship – feels scary. Hug the fear. Hug yourself.

Gradually facing, feeling and releasing deeply buried fears allows you to predominantly vibe more from love. Vibing more from love supplies you with loving thoughts and influences you to take loving actions.

Slowly but surely, loving feelings and loving thoughts you generate, and loving actions you take, allow you to live a life of fun, freedom and joy.

Follow an Energetic Practice

Most mere mortals need to follow some energetic practice to expand awareness enough in order to unearth, trigger, face, feel and release deep fears.


  • meditate
  • do Kriya yoga
  • do yin yoga
  • spend 45 seconds in an icy cold shower

daily, to expand my awareness, to face my fears and to live more predominantly from love, service and peace.

Find energetic practices resonant with you.

Remember; you got yourself here but you can begin engineering a different life right now.

Your choice.


About the Author 

Ryan Biddulph

Ryan Biddulph helps you learn how to blog at Blogging From Paradise.

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