Far and away, one of my biggest mistakes in life was being completely blind to the love and support around me.
From my dad, to my wife, to the many people online who loved what I did, I clung to so many deep fears and pains that I ignored people who cared for me, helped me and promoted my success and happiness.
I have learned my lesson. Now I tune into love in the form of offline and online support. Feeling grateful for retweets, Facebook Shares, eBook sales and course sales connected me deeply with people who believe in me and help me.
If you blind yourself to supportive, loving people in your life you cannot reach the next level of success. Nor can you be genuinely happy if you ignore people who love you.
Why?
Where your attention and energy goes, grows.
Icons Build Tribes
Icons build large, loyal loving tribes of people who follow them, support them, endorse them and love them.
Lone wolves go solo and never become icons because no single human being can do what hundreds, thousands or millions of people can do.
I guest posted on 5 blogs today. How? I built my blogging friend network by generously helping fellow bloggers in some way, shape or form. Some generous blogging buddies invited me to guest post on their blogs. We both win. I help large, loyal readerships. My friends gain passive, targeted traffic.
But I never seize these guest posting opportunities if I am blind to the support and invitations from these rocking bloggers.
Train Your Eyes to See the Love
Observe all people who have shown you love on your journey. From your spouse, to your siblings to friends you have made online, each person helped make you who you are today. Humble yourself. Leaders understand their small role in their own success.
My tribe helped me retire to a life of island hopping through smart blogging one blog comment, one retweet, one Facebook Share, one interview, one eBook sale and one course sale at a time. Without my tribe, few people would find my blog.
I had to train my eyes and open my heart to become hyper aware of how these loving, caring people helped make me the person I am today. I could never experience success unless these people supported me. Letting go lone wolf syndrome and a general lack of gratitude were both necessary steps in seeing and feeling the love around me.
Appreciate Everybody Who Helped You Along the Way
From Don graciously inviting me to guest post on his respected blog, to the blogger who just bought my eBook and alerted me via a tweet, to the blogger who emailed me to let me know how much they enjoyed my course and how they want to share it with their tribe, all success I experience flows through these awesome people.
Appreciate people who helped make you successful. Nobody wins alone. We all need a loving, loyal tribe to live our dreams and to empower our followings.
Be grateful for people who showed you the love.
You will have progressively more people to be grateful for as your tribe grows.