I’ve fallen out of love with my spouse, I’m lost. How do I find that friendship and love again?
You probably went for walks and talked.
You dreamed together, you talked about life goals, your plans for the future.
You wrote little love letters to each other.
You hopped into bed at the drop of a hat, feeling excited about your partner.
Definitely Do That, even if you have to practically force yourself at first!
|Take some time to get away from the kids|
Another thing that I highly recommend is to attend a workshop like A Weekend to Remember from FamilyLife. These workshops have rekindled the love in many relationships, and are a combination of a great vacation with intense weekend-long counseling sessions designed to pull the two of you back together again. There are also lots of helpful articles on their website for various issues you may be facing.
Do these things, take action, and you can get back to the for better part of those wedding vows. Marriage shouldn’t be constantly in the for worse category of those vows, but to get it back to the better portions you have to be the one to take the first steps. Focus on what you can change on your side, and you may find that your spouse will follow you back down the right road.